Just a quick note to let you know we are home and L is recovering...having quite a bit of pain but the pain meds have kicked in and he has managed to eat an ice pop, twizzler and gummy bear!!
Will post pictures later of his exciting day...right now he is painting a craft that was sent home since he missed Home Schooler's Day Out.
Thanks for praying for our little man ...we are praying tonight goes well!!
Love,
MamaB
Wednesday, October 31, 2007
Friday, October 26, 2007
Thankful Eyes....
Don't let his tiny size fool you...what he lacks in stature, he makes up for in spunk and spirit!!
While the older kids were learning upstairs, the little ones were having a grand time of controlled chaos in the basement.
People often ask what the younger ones do during school time. Well, after I have finished with their 1:1 time, they work on activities...yep, these times often challenge my love for order but it keeps them busy and out of harm's way and it gives them ample opportunity to practice their clean up skills!!
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* L has definitely been showing signs of anxiety regarding his upcoming surgery (scheduled for 10/31-please pray!). He is easily provoked to anger, very whiny and just overall not himself. He is able to articulate and attribute these outbursts to his fears ("I just can't stop thinking about it and I have a plan...I'm going to hide under my covers so that I don't have to go!!") but is frequently reminded that 'choices have consequences' and God still holds him accountable for his sin. By God's grace, 'Thankful eyes' helped me yesterday to see the many opportunities to point my little boy to the compassion and faithfulness of a loving heavenly Father who will comfort and carry him during this time. I am also really sensing that this is part of the 'making of the man' for our little guy...that God is doing a mighty work in his little heart and will use this experience to grow his faith and secure his trust to anchor him in the years ahead. I am asking God for grace to deal graciously and patiently with L in his "high maintenance mode" and that the Lord would supernaturally grant him peace to walk through this scary time. Daddy has been having sweet talks with our little man as well assuring him that trusting in a sovereign God is the only way to have peace...tough truths for an adult to consistently put into practice and even more challenging for a 5 year old
*On Monday I learned from Amazon. com that they suspected fraudulent activity in my account and closed it . Curious, I checked my paypal account 'just in case' and learned that a huge wad of money had been charged to my account for jewelry and other stuff! By God's grace, 'thankful eyes' helped me to be grateful that this was caught early and that the charges were reversed. Had I not received that Amazon email, I would not have known about the paypal mess. The hassles of spending much time on the phone( and the kiddy chaos resulting from a distracted mommy) , paled in comparison to the hassles that would have surely ensued had the problem not been identified so early!!
*Yesterday, Mercy in her typical enthusiastic( but just a wee bit impulsive) manner wanted to 'help' me as I prepared to turn the mixer on to make pumpkin bread. Only problem is she pushed the lever to '10'( before I could instruct her to start at the lowest setting and gradually increase the mixer speed)-This sent flour and pumpkin goop all over her hair, shirt, the cabinets, and counter. By God's grace 'thankful eyes' helped me to actually laugh, snap a picture, and rejoice that she was in the process of undoing her hair in preparation for the next hair style. How grateful I was that this did not occur after I had just spent the typical 4 hours doing her hair!!! I definitely would have failed that test and am grateful for God's kind timing!
* Right now, we are in 'remodel mode' as M gutted our powder room on Sunday due to a chronic leak and a much needed face lift since this room has not been improved (aside from a new toilet seat and wallpaper!) since we moved in 14+ years ago... Remodel mode means that the family room is now home to all of the contents of the old bathroom(except the toilet...I'm grateful for that :)) and the living room is now home to the sink and cabinets soon to be installed. Typically, my idol of order would be rearing its ugly head... I still feel it lurking around under the surface of my peace & order craving heart, but by God's grace I am choosing to focus instead on being grateful for my hubby's handyman giftings and the expert help of DaddyK (Jenkin's and Felicia's Dad) who gets a job done in a hurry. Oh, I'm thankful also for the fun of choosing a new wall color, towels, throw rug, and a trash can!!!
* Upstairs is also very disorganized as we pulled down the 10 bins from the attic in order to do the labor intensive clothing switchover for all 8 of us. God's prodding to look with " thankful eyes" has helped me to see the immense blessing of all of those bins which typically feel like endless work and clutter...how blessed we are to have such generous neighbors, family and friends who graciously gift us with hand me downs to clothe the kiddos year after year!!! God has provided with such an abundance that we are often sending huge overflowing bag loads out the door to bless another family :) In fact, I have 2 large bags awaiting our annual homeschool clothing swap and I'm not even near finished yet :)
Now, I wish I could report that every 'opportunity' has been viewed with 'thankful eyes'...unfortunately, more times than not, my gaze is less than thankful -often viewing these God given 'opportunities' as unwanted interruptions. Or, my view is skewed by unbelief instead of viewing the goodness and wisdom of God in the midst of the challenge. So, for now, I am praying for the grace to view all things with 'thankful eyes' as I seek to honor Him with a growing meek and quiet spirit.
We would be so blessed if you would pray our little man L and his upcoming surgery on Wednesday. As I type, he is snuggling with Daddy on the recliner chair, watching the World Series and eating a chocolate chip cookie...attempts at drifting off to sleep were futile as he crashed this afternoon and took a much needed 2 hour nap. Now he is quite chatty and not at all sleepy! Thankfully, everyone else is in bed :) We are actually letting him sleep with us tonight since he has been waking up fretful and scared...it seems he just needs a little extra TLC right now :) Shh...don't let the other kiddos know!!!
I'll try to update after his surgery on Wednesday...
Thanks for praying and continuing to check in~
Praying for grace to grow in viewing 'those moments' through 'thankful eyes'...
Love, Mama B
Tuesday, October 16, 2007
Fall Fun...
No news this post~ just pictures...this past Saturday, our church hosted our first ever Harvest Celebration. It was a festive, beautiful, memory- filled afternoon and the little ones had a blast.The big boys were there also and had an entire afternoon to hang with their friends, play football, and eat! We even discovered that Odesco has a hidden talent: he won the sunflower seed spitting contest for his age category--yup, that's our boy - the seed spitting wonder :)!!! Enjoy the pictures!
MamaB.
MamaB.
Mercy waited until Miss Brittany was on duty in the face painting booth :)
Sunday, October 07, 2007
A Meek and Quiet Spirit
I have begun re-reading the book Homeschooling With a Meek and Quiet Spirit by Terri Maxwell.
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It is built around the principles outlined in I Peter 3:4:
"...but let your adorning be the hidden person of the heart with the imperishable beauty of a meek and quiet spirit, which in God's sight is very precious."
We are only weeks into the new school year and I already desperately feel my need to grow in this area. Since blowing the dust off this treasure, my days have been full of opportunities to grow in these much needed character traits! If you are wondering what a meek and quiet spirit looks like, here is the dictionary definition:
Meek~ mild of temper, soft, gentle, not easily provoked or irritated.
Quiet~ peaceable, not turbulent, not giving offense,mild and contented.
I am trying to remember in the midst of these situations to thank God for giving me ample opportunity to flex my 'meek and quiet spirit' muscles and that He would be my strength as I seek to honor Him in these challenges. I have so much growing to do in this as my 'cup ' ( heart) gets bumped throughout the day and often all that spills out is dirty water(sin!!). The bumping(often in the form of my children) didn't cause the water to become dirty...the bumping is just revealing what was already in the cup !! So once again I sit back amazed that the Maker of the universe cares so intimately for my soul that He allows very specific circumstances and situations into my life to refine my character. Truly the crucible of the home is a wonderful training ground and there is no place on earth that I would rather be...Lord just help me remember this the next time my 'cup is bumped'!!
Onto some family happenings:
* Last week, I took L to his pediatric ENT appointment to discuss his huge adenoids and tonsils. Truthfully, these organs are the only huge part of our very little man and he is quite proud of them!! He enjoyed showing them off to the nurse practitioner as he widely opened his mouth for her to see his tonsils and then he pointed out his 'hibernating teeth' on the x-ray . It was no surprise that the recommendation was to schedule surgery :( The nurse practitioner was extremely likable and full of information...only problem is she very clearly(she was not talking in 'code') told me that he will have lots of pain following the surgery and he heard every word!! He also happily heard her instructions that he needs to eat lots of food like gummy bears, chips, pizza, and other chewy candies immediately following the surgery! Evidently, the chewing motion is supposed to deal with the referred pain to the neck and jaw region. Just thinking about him eating anything but smoothies and ice cream makes me cringe... I can't imagine the discomfort that will bring but trust it will be short lived and the benefits of quiet sleeping and a cleared airway (hopefully this will help with his appetite) will be worth the few days of pain. We also had to have some blood work drawn which I did not prepare him ahead of time for since I didn't know it would need to be done.So I broke the news to him as we waited to go in for it and he was not a happy camper...fortunately they were able to get the vial of blood from his finger alone so that was God's kindness to our little guy!
On the way home I needed to run an errand so I did get him a slurpie and gummy bears (I know- highly nutritious!) hoping to give him something fun to anticipate instead of focusing on the surgery! It worked for a few minutes...then we pulled in the driveway and his mood changed. I got out of the car, turned around to get a package and couldn't find L. Last I saw him he was standing at the front door waiting for me to open it....our van is so big, he scooted around it without me seeing him. I found him in time to see him turning the corner of our cul-de-sac (thankfully on the sidewalk). He was determinedly walking and when I caught up to him he very forthrightly announced that he was NOT having surgery and he was running away!! I picked him up and he started to cry about what he heard the nurse tell me...I assured him that it would all be worth it in the end and that God would be with him...he calmed down and then we called Daddy as we sat on our neighbor's lawn to tell him the news. Soon L was ready to head inside and this time he was so excited to tell his siblings that he gets to eat junk food!!! Oh, what a fickle pickle he is and I expect these fluctuating attitudes will continue until October 31st- the day of his actual surgery. Please keep him in your prayers :)!!
*As we walked into church this Sunday, L was once again declaring his excitement over the prospect of unlimited junk food( as if he eats unlimited anything!!) when Mercy reminded him that we are getting ready to worship God...then she said," L-please stop talking about this...it makes me think about wanting to eat!!!!" I got a good laugh out of this interchange between siblings :)!! One who barely eats and one who loves to eat!
* Last week during our first soccer game, L was on the side lines with a few of his teammates waiting for their turn to be in the game. From the other end of the field I noticed that he and one particular teammate were quite animated as they engaged in conversation and totally oblivious to the game going on in front of them. Curious, I walked over to where they were sitting and overheard their conversation which was all about STAR WARS...yep it's official ... we have a 'teenage toddler' -(I'm borrowing my friend Kim's creative label for her youngest son ) P and C had no clue about Star Wars until just a few years ago and here is Mr. 5 year old actively engaged in a very dynamic conversation about this very topic... and if you know L, you know exactly what I am talking about!
*Early this morning I was greeted by a very smiley, cuddly Odesco. I was reminded of how glum and moody he and Mercy used to be in the mornings when they first awakened. I am sure it was all part of their grieving as they left Liberia and all they knew to come to us. Just seeing his smiley face and getting a bear hug from this little guy reminded me of the mighty work the Lord has done in just 10 short months!!
* Last night, Mark went to check on the kiddos before turning in and was surprised to see the little boys' beds empty!! Sure enough , C in his quest to awaken earlier in the morning, asked the little boys to sleep with him. We heard many bumps and kicks against the wall last night...at one point Daddy went in to check on them. Somehow they were all asleep even as L was situated across the other 2. They were all up by 7am and Odesco was so excited he got to share his big brother's bed!!
Today Mercy had her appointment to have the molds taken to make her orthodontic appliance...She was her typical self, taking her shoes off before climbing up in the 'cool' chair, then getting out of the chair to check things of interest out on the counter but responding well to the instruction to get situated and stay put! She was pretty upset when they put the goop in to make the upper mold-if any of you remember this, it is not a pleasant experience-especially as it hardens inside your mouth! Anyhow with hand-holding and much encouragement she made it through the longest 60 seconds of her life and stopped howling as soon as they removed the mold which did not come out easily. The bottom mold was a breeze and she was a champ for this! I do think she had a bit of pain with the upper one as their was some bleeding near the tooth that was just worked on last week. After this, she had to lightly bite on a piece of wax but first they needed to convince her it was not cheese as she rubbed her belly saying, Yummy, yummy!!" She is such a character!!! In three weeks they will fit the appliance on her and give her another 2 weeks to adjust to it in her mouth before applying any tension to the tooth that needs to be moved. Then she will wear this 24/7 for 6 months. So I am praying for God to especially meet L and Mercy in a significant way in the days ahead. Praying also for abundant grace to deal with any of their complaints and fears as we walk through these minor procedures (that seem HUGE) to a little one.
Trusting that with His unfailing grace, I will grow to be more like Him(with a meek and quiet spirit!)...especially in the precious but fiery crucible of our 'cup bumping' home!!
Love,
MamaB
Friday, September 28, 2007
We've been busy!
Well, things have been in high gear around here. In addition to multiple orthodontist, dentist and doctor appointments we've been busy with the activities detailed below...oh and we are back to a full school schedule too :)!! Today Mercy had an appointment with the pediatric dentist to have a crown put in over a tooth that was badly decaying. After the procedure, the tears started(quiet tears!) as soon as she saw me in the waiting area(this dentist prefers the parents wait in the other room) but she was reportedly a total gem during the procedure. She even was given a refreshing popsicle by the dentist to help with the discomfort.She was such a trouper and as we drove home, I was reminded of our first doctor visit and what a contrast to her experience today ....my, what a work God has done!! We came home and everyone was so excited to see Mercy's 'golden tooth'. It is actually a silver cap and Mercy was quite impressed with its shiny shiny quality. L admitted he wanted one too and displayed his eagerness by peering closely into Mercy's widely opened mouth!!! Yikes, let's hope we can avoid another one of these pretty but pricey tooth ornaments! Next week we head over to the orthodontist who will be fitting Mercy with a custom made spring loaded mouth piece to correct her cross bite. She will wear this 24/7 (except for brushing) for approximately 6 months. Our already challenging Phonics lessons are about to get really interesting as she attempts to speak clearly with the new contraption in her mouth:)!!
On Sunday during worship at church my heart was full as I heard Mercy singing the words to this song,
" Your blood has washed away my sin, Jesus thank you-
The Father's wrath completely satisfied, Jesus thank you.
Once your enemy, now seated at your table, Jesus thank you."
I didn't realize she had memorized the words to this song...such rich truth that she has yet to fully comprehend but my heart was stirred that if even for a brief moment, she was actively participating in worship instead of asking when she could sit down.
Once again, I am amazed by His grace!
Thanks for stopping by,
MamaB.
Look who turned 4?! On the Sunday before his birthday, we had Mimi and Pop Pop over..the Kach kiddos joined us too. Grandmom and Pop-Pop B were away visiting with family up North but Odesco was thrilled to receive a card from them in the mail!.
Another birthday celebration...We were blessed to participate in '50 days of splendor' to honor our friend Mrs Di. Her hubby creatively set up different people to bless his wife for the 50 days leading up to her...um __th birthday. Well, I can't tell you how old she'll be---you guess and fill in the blank :)
The little ones sang a song and made her special creations...then we enjoyed a lunch together with Mrs. Di's kiddos...lots of fun. How grateful I am for this special lady who has blessed my life in countless ways. She also bravely takes all 6 kids on a regular basis for a few hours for our 'kidswap'. On an alternate afternoon I have her 2 kiddos here...hmmm who gets the better end of that deal?!?
These 4 enjoy the simple things!! They were so excited to have a 'picnic' under the swing set! The added benefit is less mess on the kitchen floor :)
Fun at our friend's house ( they live a few houses away) for a marshmallow roast...then the big boys and Daddy stayed to watch the Monday Night Football on a 'real' TV while I got the littles in bed.
We had 3 of the Kach kiddos here on Odesco's actual birthday . What better gift for Odesco than to be with his special buddy on his special day?!
Odesco's special birthday request was Potato Green Soup...these 3 were the only ones who ate it and they wisely found the bibs in the drawer used for our toddler visitors. Red palm oil is bright orange as you can see and stains everything it splatters on!
Our little pirate donning his birthday gifts (Pirate hat, sunglasses and rubberband gun)
Grandmom and Poppop B sent Odesco money...I took him to a very fun local educational store ( Lakeshore Learning Store) and let him choose a game.Initially he was content to sit and play with a sample toy cash register...finally C and I coaxed him away from that to choose his game. He was so funny as he aimlessly ran around from aisle to aisle trying to make up his mind. Finally I chose 3 games for him to pick from, he just pointed to the game above and let C and I know he was ready to go home...sensory overload for sure!!
These 4 do lots of clowning around together...Odesco initially was upset when everyone laughed at him in this 'jester hat'- a treasure he found in our dress up bin. We had to explain that the purpose of the hat was to make people laugh...so, once he processed that information, our smiling boy was back again :)
Last week we headed up to the Pocono mountains for an overnight to join our gracious hosts, the Di family as they vacationed for the week. The ride up was just beautiful as the leaves are on the cusp of change. It was a wonderful break ...above is the view from the house. Daddy joined us after work on Monday and we drove home after dinner on Tuesday night.
One of the highlights for the kiddos was relaxing in this monstrous hot tub outside the back door! Little man L exclaimed," Ahhh this is the life!" How right he is...these kids are so blessed!!!
Daddy and Mr. Di enjoying a rare quiet moment to chat.
The kiddos conquer the sand hill and give the moms more laundry to do!
The B Bunch...all 8 of us :) You can't tell in this picture but we were being attacked by pesky gnats that attempted to fly up or into all exposed orifices-Blech!!!
On Tuesday afternoon, the Kach family joined in the fun. Odesco was thrilled to spend time with his buddy Jenkins! We left after dinner but were grateful for the fellowship we squeezed in before the drive home...the Di's even take their gift of hospitality on the road with them inviting guests to spend each day with them !!
Our little man L gets to ride in style on one of his first playdates at his friend's house. It was too funny seeing him secured in his carseat as my friend L took off in her sporty convertible. He had such a fun time and was full of stories when he came home :) I just love this part of mothering-having the opportunity to rejoice with our kids when they rejoice!!!
On Sunday during worship at church my heart was full as I heard Mercy singing the words to this song,
" Your blood has washed away my sin, Jesus thank you-
The Father's wrath completely satisfied, Jesus thank you.
Once your enemy, now seated at your table, Jesus thank you."
I didn't realize she had memorized the words to this song...such rich truth that she has yet to fully comprehend but my heart was stirred that if even for a brief moment, she was actively participating in worship instead of asking when she could sit down.
Once again, I am amazed by His grace!
Thanks for stopping by,
MamaB.
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